Life Rules

Check this every morning to review until they are memorized and part of routine.


 * 1) Wait 5 seconds before speaking (count in head)
 * 2) If you feel the impule to show someone something, wait 10 minutes
 * 3) if you feel the impulse to speak to someone, wait 10 minutes
 * 4) if you get stuck on something, go do something mundane that requires some attention, but still allows the mind to wander (saw this idea on a Horizon documentary). Here are some ideas:
 * 5) clean the dishes
 * 6) make some lunch
 * 7) paint miniatures
 * 8) play with the cat
 * 9) fix a cup of coffee
 * 10) play a game of Puerto Rico
 * 11) clean up desk or computer desktop
 * 12) organize computer folders
 * 13) If you want to send an email or communicate something to someone via IM, wait 10 minutes before hitting send/enter
 * 14) If you are stressed out, admit it to yourself and take action
 * 15) Don't trust ANYONE when melting down. Nobody understands it and they will not help you.
 * 16) If you feel a meltdown coming, RUN AWAY. Find a place you can be alone, so no one can see your face. If you can find a freezer or something cold that will clear away the red. Wait as long as you have to.
 * 17) Seriously, don't trust anyone. You may want to talk it out when melting down but it never helps, ever. It doesn't matter who you talk to, it never helps. Keep it to yourself. Write in journal if you have to, and get away from people!
 * 18) If you feel proud about something don't tell anyone about it
 * 19) If you are in a meeting, don't say anything unless someone speaks to you first, and then wait 5 seconds or so before answering
 * 20) If you think something you have to say is funny, wait 10 minutes before saying it. If it requires timing, wait 10 seconds before deciding to say it. Make sure its actually funny!
 * 21) If you read/see/hear something that sets you off emotionally, RECOGNIZE that you've been triggered and cut off all contact with people until it's over. Do not send any IMs, emails, etc, and don't let people at work see your cryface if you can help it. As long as they have no context and don't think they caused it and see it, it's better than telling them what the issue is.
 * 22) when doing small talk, just ask questions and let the other person do the talking. Do this in general.
 * 23) If you have big plans to do something, don't tell anyone or it'll kill your motivation to actually do it.

Sources:

http://www.medicaldaily.com/articles/9926/20120517/work-gender-management-talking-psychology.htm

http://99u.com/workbook/16334/losing-motivation-keep-your-mouth-shut